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MenAreGood is a channel for men, boys, fathers, new fathers, grandfathers and women who want to learn about men and masculinity.  Are you tired of the false narrative of toxic masculinity?  Did you know there is a huge amount of research that shows the positive aspects of men, boys and fathers?  That is what we focus on here, being a source of good information and also a place to connect.   Join us!
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September 10, 2022
What Does Ritalin Do to Our Boys? You will be shocked and pissed

Research has been done that shows what Ritalin does to our boys. You never hear a word about it but it has been known now for a number of years. Renowned researcher Jaak Panksepp was the one who discovered this. Why are we still giving this out like candy?

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Regarding Men 24: Sicko Therapy

Janice, Paul, and Tom discuss the twisted ideas of feminist therapy. If feminists are now admitting that they hate men, what does that do to any form of therapy based on feminist ideas?

Laura Brown http://www.drlaurabrown.com/feminist-therapy/

Psychology Today on Feminist Therapy https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/feminist-therapy

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March 25, 2024
Understanding Men: Introduction

This is a brief introduction to the Understanding Men Playlist that quickly summarizes what you will find in each of the 12 videos or excerpts.

You can access these via the Understanding Men Playlist. The articles will be in another playlist.

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March 23, 2024
Play: Some Ideas for Fathers and Grandfathers

Tom has a quick look at some different ideas for dads and granddads about playing with their children and grandchildren. All too often men find themselves with very limited time with their children and finding ways to play with them can make the most of that limited time while being great fun for both father and child.

I will post those two stories if there is any interest. Let me know in the comments.

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February 07, 2023
The Way Boys Play and the Biological Underpinnings

My apologies for the last empty post. My mistake. Let's hope this one works.

Tom takes a stab at using the podcast function. Let's see how it goes.

The Way Boys Play and the Biological Underpinnings
May 13, 2022
Boys and Rough Play

This is a short excerpt from Helping Mothers be Closer to their Sons. The book was meant for single mothers who really don't know much about boy's nature. They also don't have a man in the house who can stand up for the boy and his unique nature. It tries to give them some ideas about how boys and girls are different. This excerpt is about play behaviors.

Boys and Rough Play
46 minutes ago
DAVIA press release: ‘I am full of rage:’ NYC Meeting Reveals Why Feminism is a Form of Mental Illness

This DAVIA press release looks at a recent feminist conference in New York and makes some interesting observations about feminism and mental illness.

https://endtodv.org/pr/i-am-full-of-rage-nyc-meeting-reveals-why-feminism-is-a-form-of-mental-illness/

We often spend years screaming into the wilderness, and somethimes you get something back. And this is so on point and so needed right now. He just lays it out.

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What is a Man?

I posted this over at vivabarneslaw.locals.com , but I thought of a couple more points more suitable for this community.

1) Rand Paul's opening statement applies just as much to MGM as to transgenderism, regardless of what the Matt Walshes of the world may think.

2) What is a man, or more specifically what is a man such that Rachel Levine thinks he isn't one? There are men who are stereotypical lumberjacks, men that are flaming queens, and everything in between. There's no combination of personal characteristics that make up "not a man", so other than a self-loathing misandry how do you get to the conclusion that your genitalia is the problem? And of course the similar question for women.
And how far does this "belief over physical reality" go? If I deny being me and assert, despite evidence to the contrary, that I'm Napoleon Bonaparte, does that make me a short French dude?

March 16, 2024
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Masculinity, the Dokwerker and my grandsons

This is a guest post from Eisso Post. You may remember the excellent writing he shared in November titled “Let Us Now Praise Awkward Men.“ I am betting you will like this one too. I know I do. Thank you Eisso.
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Masculinity, the Dokwerker and my grandsons


In Amsterdam, there’s a famous statue on the Jonas Daniël Meijerplein: ‘de Dokwerker’, theDockworker. It’s a tribute to the brave strikers on februar 25 and 26 in 1941 against the prosecution of Jews by the nazi occupiers.

 



It depicts an impressive, very masculine, working-class man. The kind of proletarian man that was admired by the left in those days, and Amsterdam was a very classical left-wing city. It is also the kind of proletarian man the ‘revolutionary left’ got disappointed in when it turned out that, with the Keynesian welfare state and massive production of consumer goods, most workers were quite happy with a 40 hours working week, a few weeks holiday (the ‘bouwvak’), social security, healthcare,
education, a tv and central heating. The less fortunate workers in the least attractive jobs, even those within the Communist Party, largely fought to also get those things.

Of course that’s no way to make a revolution. So the revolutionaries adopted new theories. These, starting with the Frankfurter Schule, with a handful of steps inbetween, ended up with about the worst of all ideological worlds: postmodern intersectional identity politics, with the ‘cishet white man’ on top of the oppression olympics.

To remain a bit cautious, officially those men as such aren’t hated. But to be accepted, they must swear off their ‘toxic masculinity’. That includes such characteristics as strength, being impressive and dominant when needed, protectiveness, ignoring your fear when it is best ignored. All the masculine traits the Dokwerker has. The admired working class man became the bogeyman of the new left.

When I was a teenager and, as so many teenagers, found it hard to find my way in the world, the idea of masculine traits harming men became fashionable among left-wing people: being more practical than emotional, acting rough, not being allowed to cry, the whole shenanigan. As I was less masculine than average anyway, I decided to adopt this ideology: cultivate my softer, more gentle sides as much as possible and let my tougher and more dominant side wither away. (Only with my
heterosexual lust, this didn’t work out: I could be told all the time my desire to have sex with girls was just to boast my masculine image and/or prove I’m not gay, I never managed to feel it that way and the desire only got stronger.) As to all kinds of industrial and manual labour: not only was it traditionally masculine, it was also bad for the environment. Engines, synthetic products like glues, noise, you know what I mean. So I shunned that world, though without condemning the people in it.

In other places, I described how this attitude got me nowhere in my life. But this more or less happy ending is quite surprising:

My twin grandsons are two years and a few months old now. Since two years, I almost everyday spend a few hours with them. And since about a year, we walk together around the neighborhood. For boys that age, you don’t need an amusement park: the whole world is one. Stairs, statues, dogs, cats, even stones, berries and chestnuts are just as many miracles.


But among the greatest attractions are men at work. Men renovating houses amidst scaffolding tubes; men digging holes in the street with noisy machines; men on big trucks emptying garbage containers or gathering heaps of leaves in the park. White and orange lights, sometimes flickering, during the dark season. And all those supposedly toxic men are surprisingly friendly towards the toddlers. When I make jokes about their ‘fans’ being there again, they react just as cheerful. When
they ask us to keep away somewhere, mostly with good reasons, they’re never harsh or impatient. And once an older man even lifted them up in his truck. Heaven!

(Are those really boys’ things or do all little children enjoy it just as much? Well – my sister has an organic food shop. Not exactly the place visited by parents raising their children in a traditional way. And she says: ‘Of course there is a difference! The little boys always want to look when I’m handling the bread cutting machine. The girls aren’t interested.’ So, I’d say, at least on average there will be a difference.)

There were even moments when I myself longed to be a man like that. Dressed in a fluorescent green and/or orange suit, carrying stones in my arms or with a small wagon, being dirty all day till I can shower at night, telling jokes to my colleagues. (Yes, I know, it’s romanticising a life like that.)

But not only working men are interesting. The boys have a great fascination for basketball players in the park. They’re all tall, athletic boys, and as diverse as you could wish. Brown, white, Dutch, Arabs, Turkish, Eastern European and from the English speaking world. And they’re so sweet with the boys! They don’t mind at all when the boys disturb them but start playing with them, rolling a ball to and fro. Sometimes they lift them up so the boys can ‘score a point’. Those moments are highlights of the day.

Mind you, my conclusion is not that all men should by now adopt traditional male characteristics and be like the Dokwerker. Nobody should be anything else than they please to be. Let them be machos or softies or extravagant gays or cowboys or hippies. And I myself will never be like the Dokwerker. I’m not that strong and impressive. And I will always like poetry, acoustic melodious music, walking in
beautiful landscapes. I like caring for people and being around children – which is obvious, or I wouldn’t spend so much time with those two marvellous little men.

But thinking you will be happier by discarding your rougher, tougher, more dominant, maybe dirtier, ‘traditional masculine’ traits is not the way either. I myself wish now I had cultivated them more since my teen years, when I was still very malleable.

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Eisso Post (Edam, Netherlands, 1956) writes short stories and coached beginning authors of all convictions. He also contributed to Janice Fiamengo’s ‘Sons of feminism’. Nowadays he’s mainly the grandfather of two splendid boys.


https://nl.wikipedia.org/wiki/De_Dokwerker

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March 12, 2024
Feeling Good in a Red Pill World 52 -- Your Best Memory
This will be the last post in this series
The Feeling Good in a Red Pill World series has been going on for about a year.  I am thinking that makes it a good time to quit for a while.  This will be our last post in this series and let's end on a good note, your best memory.

Take just a moment from your busy day and ponder something.  What is your best memory?  

This is not a simple question.  There are likely a number of competing memories that come to mind.  Let all of the competitors in.  Was it in your childhood?  Was it something that happened recently?  Does it involve other people?  Was it an accomplishment?  A new member of the family?  New home?  Give yourself about five minutes to let your top memories come into your mind.  Notice what they are, notice who was there, notice your surroundings and notice how you felt.  Let it all come back.

I am guessing you have narrowed it down to three to five competing best memories.  Let them brew in your minds eye.  Which one of the five comes to the top?  Do they all have the same impact on you?  Is there one that stands out?

Okay, now take just a minute to notice how you are feeling.  What has the experience been like to let the most positive times in your life come into awareness?  What does it leave you feeling? 

TRY THIS

Take the memory that was at the top of your list and let it sink into your awareness.  Let yourself re-experience that event.  Remember the people, the things, the event itself and all that was connected.  Remember your own emotional reaction at the time.  Let that percolate. Imagine as you breathe in that you are "breathing in" that experience.  Feel it move into your body from the top of your head to your toes.  Take a deep breath of that experience in and release it with a long sigh.  Do that several times. Let a symbol of this event come to mind.  It may be a sight, a sound, a touch, a number, a letter or word or something different.  Let that symbol form in your mind's eye.   Remember that symbol and during the day smile as it comes to mind.

How do you feel now?

Feel good!

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March 06, 2024
Heads Up! Protest and Press Conference March 12th in NYC Against the Misandry of the UN
 

The date for this event it March 12th!  Sorry for my error.

The press conference will be in the Westin Hotel on East 42nd Street in NYC, beginning at 1pm. It promises to have hard-hitting presentations that will reveal the hypocrisy of the United Nations in failing to respect the basic human rights of men and boys, and working to undermine the family. The event will be videotaped. Afterwards, there will be a vigil protest in front of UN Women.

If you are in the NYC area it would be great to have you there!

more info on Davia:
https://endtodv.org/davia/

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