Saying NO and Feeling Good!
A friend of mine from college would say that "NO" is the second best answer in the world. Why? Well, because "yes" may be the best answer but "maybe" is surely worse. Maybe puts you off, it disallows planning, it leaves you uncertain of intentions and on and on. A NO gives us a clear view of what is up. Now we can make our plans for the future without waiting around for a "maybe" to come to fruition.
But why is it that people hate to say no? Some avoid saying no due to their worry that it creates conflict. Others worry that people won't like them. Still others are concerned they might ruffle the wrong feathers. Whatever the reason we frequently see people avoiding saying no even when that is surely what they would want to say.
So how do you say no and feel good?
There are lots of ways but let's look at three.
1. When you say no, precede it with something positive. ie "That's a great idea but I am going to have to decline."
2. Say something encouraging after declining. ie "No, that is not going to work for me but I am guessing this will work out well for you and others."
3. Thank the person first. "Hey, thanks for thinking of me but this isn't going to work out with my schedule."
Give your friends, co-workers and family the benefit of a clear NO and at the same time not turning them off. This is the best of both worlds and hopefully will leave all feeling good.
Feel good! See you next Tuesday for another look at feeling good in a red pill world. Men are good! As are you.